One evening as we were cleaning up supper, Anna had a good visit with Dad. Later as we snuggled in our tent, she told me about their conversation. She had asked him about his Mom and Dad. He told
her that his parents didn’t really discipline, but were very kind and so he and
his brothers did right because they didn’t want to disappoint them. I loved
hearing that, because that’s how I describe the parenting style of my folks and
how I’ve tried to raise my own kids.
We fell asleep to the sound of the Blackfoot River rushing
over the old rock dam at the end of the pasture. It’s such a comforting,
familiar sound; one I remember well from my childhood. My great grandfather
built the dam to source an irrigation ditch so the melody ties me to my
ancestors in a way nothing else can - except for the frogs croaking and the
crickets chirping - these do not change.
When we were kids we’d sleep out on the lawn most every
night, our faces firmly coated with mosquito repellant. My sisters and I would
stare up at the stars, locate the big dipper, and drift off to the sound of
the river.
We lost Mom two years ago in September. There’s only a few
flowers left in her yard, but, oh, how we enjoyed the large oriental poppies in
bloom at the front gate catching the evening sun with their translucent
petals. Mom was a master of design, so good in fact, that the “bones” of the
yard, the view, the large trees, the patio placement, make it majestic long
after Mom’s skilled hands have ceased to maintain the flower beds. We felt Mom
everywhere at the camp-out, frying burgers on her outdoor griddle, laying out
each meal’s fare on her dad’s picnic tables, entertaining grandkids, and pruning cedars by committee
just the way she would have wanted.